Him: Carlton Road, Edinburgh, Midlothian.
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Wednesday, January 23, 2013
You make me happy.
Me: The more I know you, the more you surprise me. Where on earth did I find you?
Wednesday, January 16, 2013
Malay folk song translated :)
Translation
- I feel love, hey! I feel love love hey,
- Hey when I look at that girl, I feel love love hey.
- I feel love, hey! I feel love love hey,
- Hey when I look at that girl, I feel love love hey.
- The jack fruit is outside the fence,
- Please take a stick and poke it down,
- I'm just a new guy trying to learn,
- So if I'm wrong then please show me the way.
Like cookie dough and vanilla ice cream.
I was right all along. The right relationship doesn't take much work; you just have chemistry, you 'get' each other, you're along the same wavelength. It's so easy to be happy. Of course there are going to be tough times but if you're right for each other it shouldn't be that tough at all overall. When you fight or have an issue it's not disastrous - you work it out together, listening to each other, so naturally.
This is my theory - communication levels are just going to experience a gradual decline from the get go. If you find that you're not on the same wavelength from the very start, not a good start is it? The longer the relationship, probably more stale it becomes. If you have difficulty communicating even when you first met, it's just going to be bleargh in a few years. And by that time complacence takes over as well.
I've never felt this chemistry with anyone before. That spark, that doesn't really die. It's not infatuation - that one dies quickly. But chemistry remains, and you know it within the first few minutes/hours of meeting someone. I think that not everyone experiences chemistry and not every relationship has it. I also don't think it's absolutely necessary to have chemistry in a relationship but it sure helps A LOT overall. Communication style is a big one.
Wiki offers that chemistry can be defined as ''non-judgment, similarity, mystery, attraction, mutual trust, and effortless communication. Chemistry can be described as the combination of love, lust, infatuation, and a desire to be involved intimately with someone''. I disagree with the infatuation bit, like I said before I think infatuation dies quickly but chemistry is lifelong if you have it with someone.
It's not necessarily sexual at all, that can be part of it but it's more than that. I think the key for me here is effortless communication and this deep-seated attraction that goes beyond face value. As a friend says 'faces are the first things to get boring'. I'd like to think of chemistry as an unspoken bond that two persons just 'feel' that lasts a lifetime. You can't work on chemistry - it's there or it's not. And in my case, its presence is written all over. I've never felt this much chemistry with someone; it's a wonderful thing.
That said, you can have chemistry with the 'wrong' person for you as well, it can also turn out ugly. Let's just see how this pans out. I'm pretty sure in my case it's nothing negative, well if there is it's not causing me to loose sleep :)
At the end of the day, for me at least, chemistry boils down to effortless communication and levels of expectation about how that communication will play across and in what fashion. I won't be yearning for anything more than he is already doing because he's already doing it - naturally. I also won't be wanting him to do any less than what he's exhibiting. Ah, semantics. Let's go back to something more metaphorical, because chemistry can't really be explained either - it's like cookie dough and vanilla ice cream :)
This is my theory - communication levels are just going to experience a gradual decline from the get go. If you find that you're not on the same wavelength from the very start, not a good start is it? The longer the relationship, probably more stale it becomes. If you have difficulty communicating even when you first met, it's just going to be bleargh in a few years. And by that time complacence takes over as well.
I've never felt this chemistry with anyone before. That spark, that doesn't really die. It's not infatuation - that one dies quickly. But chemistry remains, and you know it within the first few minutes/hours of meeting someone. I think that not everyone experiences chemistry and not every relationship has it. I also don't think it's absolutely necessary to have chemistry in a relationship but it sure helps A LOT overall. Communication style is a big one.
Wiki offers that chemistry can be defined as ''non-judgment, similarity, mystery, attraction, mutual trust, and effortless communication. Chemistry can be described as the combination of love, lust, infatuation, and a desire to be involved intimately with someone''. I disagree with the infatuation bit, like I said before I think infatuation dies quickly but chemistry is lifelong if you have it with someone.
It's not necessarily sexual at all, that can be part of it but it's more than that. I think the key for me here is effortless communication and this deep-seated attraction that goes beyond face value. As a friend says 'faces are the first things to get boring'. I'd like to think of chemistry as an unspoken bond that two persons just 'feel' that lasts a lifetime. You can't work on chemistry - it's there or it's not. And in my case, its presence is written all over. I've never felt this much chemistry with someone; it's a wonderful thing.
That said, you can have chemistry with the 'wrong' person for you as well, it can also turn out ugly. Let's just see how this pans out. I'm pretty sure in my case it's nothing negative, well if there is it's not causing me to loose sleep :)
At the end of the day, for me at least, chemistry boils down to effortless communication and levels of expectation about how that communication will play across and in what fashion. I won't be yearning for anything more than he is already doing because he's already doing it - naturally. I also won't be wanting him to do any less than what he's exhibiting. Ah, semantics. Let's go back to something more metaphorical, because chemistry can't really be explained either - it's like cookie dough and vanilla ice cream :)
Sunday, January 13, 2013
You give me something.
''Katie wasn’t asking me to change; she was just asking me to expand my definition of who I was. And the best part: If I’d do it for her, she’d do it for me, too.''
-Steve Rinella
These past 2 weeks have been amazing. Being liked completely for who you are and what you believe in, even if they don't necessarily agree with your stance - is so refreshing. I've never dated anyone out of my comfort zone, let alone someone I've only met once before and who lives 200 miles away from me. We are not opposites; we just lead very different lifestyles. I was assured that what we want is the same, and I believe it really is. Excited to spend this weekend together :) Here's to the beginning of something beautiful.
-Steve Rinella
These past 2 weeks have been amazing. Being liked completely for who you are and what you believe in, even if they don't necessarily agree with your stance - is so refreshing. I've never dated anyone out of my comfort zone, let alone someone I've only met once before and who lives 200 miles away from me. We are not opposites; we just lead very different lifestyles. I was assured that what we want is the same, and I believe it really is. Excited to spend this weekend together :) Here's to the beginning of something beautiful.
Monday, January 7, 2013
For all we know.
''For all we know we may never meet again
Before you go make this moment sweet again
We won't say "good night" until the last minute
I'll hold out my hand and my heart will be in it
For all we know this may only be a dream
We come and go like a ripple on a stream
So love me tonight; tomorrow was made for some
Tomorrow may never come for all we know''
-Chet Baker
And that's what we did. We didn't say goodnight or goodbye until the last minute, and we only had one night :) And on New Year's Day too, in the horriblest of circumstances. Like a freaking film, haha.
Before you go make this moment sweet again
We won't say "good night" until the last minute
I'll hold out my hand and my heart will be in it
For all we know this may only be a dream
We come and go like a ripple on a stream
So love me tonight; tomorrow was made for some
Tomorrow may never come for all we know''
-Chet Baker
And that's what we did. We didn't say goodnight or goodbye until the last minute, and we only had one night :) And on New Year's Day too, in the horriblest of circumstances. Like a freaking film, haha.
Thursday, January 3, 2013
"It's up to me.''
That's what I've been hearing since yesterday. It's up to me, if I want to take it to another level. But we have to be clear of our boundaries, and also be aware that this may potentially end badly. But I don't know, I'm somehow willing to give it a try.
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